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Healing Through The Chaos, Not Just The Calm
The day doesn’t have to look pretty and peaceful just to say the broken parts of you are healing. Embrace the days of chaos and use them as a catalyst for breaking the cycles that have held you back for too long. Music by DayFox on Poxabay.
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And we have to keep putting our feet on the ground every morning when everything in our body, mind and spirit is telling us no, it's not worth it. Because it is worth it, the breakthrough is worth it. What's up, my friend? Welcome back to donations. The podcast diving into the painful yet hopeful, messy yet beautiful human experience. I'm your host, donovan, and here we're all about making life's journey a little easier and a little less lonely, and you don't want to miss any part of it. So make sure you're following the show and keep those downloads turned on. You also want to make sure you're following the show and keep those downloads turned on. You also want to make sure you're following along on Instagram and TikTok At donovanbaeza is the handle, that's D-O-N-A-V-O-N dot B-A-E-Z-A, and you can text me now using the link in the show description, wherever you're listening, and you can share your thoughts, questions or just say hey. And don't forget to include your name or social media handle so I can respond. And, last but not least, if you want to be featured on the show, head over to fanlistcom. Slash donations to record an audio message and send it my way. That one's spelt just like it sounds, with no hyphen in the donations.
Speaker 1:Lately I've been thinking about how I'm not where I want to be, and I know that a lot of us feel that way and that we think, as long as we're working towards something, that we're good, right. But sometimes that feeling of not being where you want to be is so heavy, and for me right now it feels like me not being where I want to be means I'm not my best self right now, like I'm facing struggles right now. So that fact alone means I'm clearly not doing all the self-help things and so I'm not healing in my life right now. And those are the connections that my mind's making right now. And I know that all seems a bit jumbled up, but that's the point. I'm all jumbled up inside and I say that because I'm not crushing it at work right now TBH, I'm not crushing it in the gym right now. Like I feel like workouts are good but they're not consistent. I feel like I don't look good in anything I wear.
Speaker 1:Right now, my relationships with the closest people in my life feel scattered. Right now, my finances are not where they should be. I have a spending problem Kidding, not kidding and my emotions are definitely getting the best of me lately, like I'm not in control of them, like I usually am or like I should be, and all of this is causing my stress to go through the roof. So stress equals definitely not at peace right now. And I'm reminded of all these things, this big mess that's out of order right now, on a daily basis. I've been coming face to face with all of this for the past couple of weeks now and I tell myself, like, just do what the people on TikTok are saying Pick up a self-help book, work on being consistent and drink some water, and then all the stress and worry and frustration will roll off your back and you'll feel better. And then you can say you're healing again. As if it were that easy, like one, as if those three things are the key to being better and two, as if thinking that when the days are easier, then I'll be healing. And the simplicity behind that mentality seems to be the center of the videos I keep coming across.
Speaker 1:But what I realize now is that sometimes, when we're finding it hard to regulate our emotions, we're angry, we're frustrated, we're sad, we're up, we're down, and when there's a minor inconvenience around every corner waiting to set us off, and when there's signs everywhere in the day that we're in that show us we're not in a best self day. Sometimes for me that's my house is dirty, clothes are thrown everywhere, there's no clean laundry and the bed isn't made. Working to make it through a day like that, that's healing. Fighting with everything you have to still get shit done when your day is in chaos like that is healing. Turning towards the mirror and facing yourself on a day, like that is healing. It's not always the drinking of a gallon of water or the reading of a certain amount of pages a day kind of day that means you're healing. It's coming face to face with people and situations and pain and chaos that tests your ability to be your best self when it feels like everything is against you.
Speaker 1:I think it's easy to confuse I'm healing with I'm calm, I'm at peace. I'm meditating in the middle of a forest with nothing but nature, sounds around me and nothing is wrong, when in reality I think it's very much that meme where the this is fine cartoon dog is sitting at the kitchen table trying to regulate himself when the whole kitchen is on fire. Kitchen table trying to regulate himself when the whole kitchen is on fire Probably the biggest thing I'm realizing while I'm in this phase of life is that these things that feel like they're creating this block or this stop in my life is temporary. Eventually we all break through and we'll be on our way to easier days. But we have to keep showing up. We have to keep knocking at the door, we have to keep facing and learning what this period is trying to teach us and we have to keep putting our feet on the ground every morning when everything in our body, mind and spirit is telling us no, it's not worth it.
Speaker 1:Because it is worth it, the breakthrough is worth it and we have to keep pushing towards it to become who all this chaos is showing us we can be. And making all of that a priority is putting yourself first. That's the whole growing, healing, evolving thing. It's not just when everything's good and you can regulate your body and emotions. It's about how you do it and who you are when those feelings and emotions are fired up and screaming at you to get the hell out.
Speaker 1:And all of that is definitely helping me see the breakthrough coming on the horizon. Healing really is who you are and how you cope when your world is turned upside down and when your heart feels like it's being ripped down the middle, or the times that you feel disrespected or abandoned, or when you're faced with something heavy like regret. Now, I don't think anyone is ever completely healed, but the day doesn't have to look pretty and peaceful just to say that the hurt and broken parts of you are in fact, healing. The day doesn't have to look pretty and peaceful just to say that the cycles that have led you away from your purpose are being broken. Until the next one, be careful, thank you.